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#121 Twang

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Posted 15 March 2008 - 09:43 PM

QUOTE (PantherWoman @ Mar 14 2008, 08:55 PM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}>
It's not rocket science is it? Another bit of free (no shit sherlock) advice - treat others as you wish to be treated yourself. Whether you be male or female.


Ok ok Ms clever cloggs but there are certain characters out there that just do not grasp the concept of what that really means... things that may seem so simple to u might not be to others and as I'm not dealing with specifics I have talk in general. There was a hidden message in there for my fellow man bcoz trust me their systems just can’t cope when things don’t go the way they expected, things can get pretty messy.

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Posted 09 April 2008 - 08:45 PM

QUOTE (Twang @ Mar 12 2008, 10:53 PM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}>
Here some more free advice for my fellow man. Sista's especially those with an old school mentality tend to be very loyal but if u take her for granted no matter how long you've been together she will eventually confined in someone else both emotionally and physically so look after her proper you've been warned.

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Well said but how can a man be more aware of whether or not he is taking her for granted?? I mean she may be telling him but not in his "language" so what can one do to prevent the other from going down the 3rd party route - if that makes sense?

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Posted 09 April 2008 - 09:03 PM

QUOTE (Twang @ Mar 15 2008, 10:43 PM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}>
Ok ok Ms clever cloggs but there are certain characters out there that just do not grasp the concept of what that really means... things that may seem so simple to u might not be to others and as I'm not dealing with specifics I have talk in general. There was a hidden message in there for my fellow man bcoz trust me their systems just can’t cope when things don’t go the way they expected, things can get pretty messy.


I can't believe I missed this! Certain characters do not grasp the concept of what that means???

Twang, I reckon everyone grasps that concept but some choose not to practice it. Human beings are naturally made to empathise with other humans so you can literally imagine the pain another person might feel in a given situation and feel sadness on their behalf. Men usually, are socialised to believe whatever they do in the game of love (or lust if you like) is okay and just part of 'being a man' and where many would be hurt and even devastated to know their woman deceived them and had sex with another man behind their back - they somehow reason that it is no big ting if they go out and pursue other women to have sex with... while they deceive and lie to the woman they are supposed to be committed to. I think some African male attitudes to sex and relationships really need to be tackled by our community - starting with young pre-pubescent boys and continuing into young adulthood - because the attitudes some African men have towards sex/women/family are creating problems, ie - broken hearts leading to bitterness, sexually transmitted disease and unwanted children, to name but a few. I was recently told by a man who has multiple women on the go, that he is very jealous and does not want any woman (in his harem) who has a man already. blink.gif wtf...

To conclude, I think pure and simple selfishness drives a lot of the deception and loose sexual behaviour which is masquerading as 'not understanding the concept of treating others as they would wish to be treated'.

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Posted 21 April 2008 - 05:47 PM

I missed this... so come ladies.

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Posted 23 April 2008 - 03:26 PM

QUOTE (Maat @ Apr 9 2008, 09:45 PM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}>
Well said but how can a man be more aware of whether or not he is taking her for granted?? I mean she may be telling him but not in his "language" so what can one do to prevent the other from going down the 3rd party route - if that makes sense?



QUOTE (Twang @ Apr 21 2008, 06:47 PM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}>
I missed this... so come ladies.


...but you missed my question sad.gif

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Posted 30 April 2008 - 06:11 PM

QUOTE (Maat @ Apr 23 2008, 04:26 PM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}>
...but you missed my question sad.gif



Sorry Sis I havent missed it that last comment was meant for both of u I will definitely deal it with it proper just caught up at the moment.

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Posted 01 May 2008 - 08:48 PM

QUOTE (Twang @ Apr 30 2008, 07:11 PM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}>
Sorry Sis I havent missed it that last comment was meant for both of u I will definitely deal it with it proper just caught up at the moment.


When will you deal with it Twang? Hurry! The forums are going!

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Posted 11 October 2008 - 09:21 PM

Right where were we ?


QUOTE (Maat @ Apr 9 2008, 09:45 PM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}>
Well said but how can a man be more aware of whether or not he is taking her for granted?? I mean she may be telling him but not in his "language" so what can one do to prevent the other from going down the 3rd party route - if that makes sense?



You’ve just answered your own question sis why do u choose to communicate in a language he doesn’t understand ?



QUOTE (PantherWoman @ Apr 9 2008, 10:03 PM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}>
I can't believe I missed this! Certain characters do not grasp the concept of what that means???

Twang, I reckon everyone grasps that concept but some choose not to practice it. Human beings are naturally made to empathise with other humans so you can literally imagine the pain another person might feel in a given situation and feel sadness on their behalf. Men usually, are socialised to believe whatever they do in the game of love (or lust if you like) is okay and just part of 'being a man' and where many would be hurt and even devastated to know their woman deceived them and had sex with another man behind their back - they somehow reason that it is no big ting if they go out and pursue other women to have sex with... while they deceive and lie to the woman they are supposed to be committed to. I think some African male attitudes to sex and relationships really need to be tackled by our community - starting with young pre-pubescent boys and continuing into young adulthood - because the attitudes some African men have towards sex/women/family are creating problems, ie - broken hearts leading to bitterness, sexually transmitted disease and unwanted children, to name but a few. I was recently told by a man who has multiple women on the go, that he is very jealous and does not want any woman (in his harem) who has a man already. blink.gif wtf...

To conclude, I think pure and simple selfishness drives a lot of the deception and loose sexual behaviour which is masquerading as 'not understanding the concept of treating others as they would wish to be treated'.



Again I cant disagree with to much of what you’ve said but it’s not that some choose not to practise it some men are just plain inexperienced and dare I say it a lot of them who act in a certain stereotypical way act like that bcoz their coming from an environment which allows that sort of behaviour to flourish where their own mothers have always made excuses for the irresponsibility and always give them an option to duck out of their duties by doing everything for them while entertaining all the different types girls one chooses to bring home.


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Posted 21 November 2008 - 10:35 PM

QUOTE (Twang @ Oct 11 2008, 09:21 PM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}>
Right where were we ?


You’ve just answered your own question sis why do u choose to communicate in a language he doesn’t understand ?


I was thinking along the lines of not knowing what the right way is to convey the message because the way we talk isn't always a choice - it's just the way we know how. So if one partner is feeling like they are being taken for granted and saying as much but nothing changes, is straying then inevitable? If not what could that partner do to turn the situation around?

Edited by Maat, 21 November 2008 - 10:37 PM.





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